An Aussie man is being applauded online for telling his girlfriend that she can’t leave the house because her skirt is too short.
Creator Chris Keverian, who describes himself as an athlete and has more 25 million likes on TikTok and more than 80,000 followers on Instagram, posted a video of him berating his girlfriend over the length of her skirt.
In the clip that has amassed more than 100,000 likes, Chris repeatedly, while using swear words to drive home his point, tells his girlfriend Hannah that she can’t leave the house because of how she’s dressed.
“Where the f—k is the other half of that skirt?” He asks.
He then tells her that she’s not going “f—king anywhere” and declares if she leaves wearing it, then they are “done”.
“What is wrong with what I’m wearing?” Hannah asks.
Chris doesn’t elaborate but tells her to pull her skirt down and demands that she unroll it so it covers up more of her body.
Hannah complains that it is now too “long,” but he declares that it is a skirt and isn’t supposed to look like underwear.
She ultimately rolls it up again, and then he tells her she’s not going out, pulls her onto the bed, and repeats that she’s not going “anywhere” tonight.
Considering we are in 2024, and there’s often a man somewhere saying, “men can’t say anything anymore,” you might have thought that this TikTok would have immediately been viciously called out.
Nope. Instead, the comments are overwhelmingly positive; Chris is being praised for telling his girlfriend she can’t leave the house.
To be clear, it wasn’t because people were arguing that he was joking or that people didn’t see anything wrong with his behavior. No. Women commented that they found it attractive … it wasn’t just being excused; it was being praised.
One woman said that she “needed” to find a man who would talk to her like that, another said she “liked” the way Chris spoke to his partner, and someone else said if a man doesn’t behave like that, then she doesn’t “want him.”
One woman claimed she wanted this kind of reaction from her boyfriend or she’d stay single, and another applauded his response, saying it was a “valid” reaction.
Yet another person shared that if their man was uncomfortable with what she was wearing, she wouldn’t argue and would instead happily go and change.
Some people did comment and share they weren’t impressed. One said the behavior was a red flag; another said this video made her want to stay single, and one advised Hannah to “keep walking” and not listen to Chris.
Melbourne psychologist Carly Dober said that women find this behaviour attractive because of our culture.
“Historically and culturally, men have told women what to do, and there has been an element of ownership and possessiveness in typically heteronormative partnerships,” Dober said.
“In this case, women expect their partners to act a bit jealous or territorial, and to have rules about what is permissible and not permissible when they leave the home which includes how I present themselves, both with makeup and with clothing.
“So while someone might find this attractive, many might not understand the power dynamics that are in play.”
Dober said that while the behavior might seem confrontational, that doesn’t mean it is automatically unhealthy.
“If there is true respect and freedom within the partnership, and both parties have the support to grow and evolve with the partner, and this is just an expression of foreplay or sexual preferences – it can be healthy,” she said.
Dober stressed, though, that the bottom line needs to remain that, ultimately, it is up to the woman on what she wears and doesn’t wear.
“If the woman does actually want to wear particular clothing when she is out and her partner is enforcing rules based on what he believes she should be doing with her body and life. I do not think this is particularly healthy.
“There is a level of deferring and disagreement in partnerships and relationships in life, which is to be expected. However, coercive control is not a healthy display of love.”