A woman has revealed she is absolutely done with her husband.
She says his festive spirit isn’t just lacking… It’s non-existent.
“Gets shouty”
“My husband does nothing towards Christmas. He doesn’t buy a single present, card, food or drink, wraps nothing, doesn’t do any meal planning or make anything either,” she writes in an online post.
His contribution to the holidays begins and ends with buying a tree and putting lights on it.
The dilemma? Their kids love to celebrate, leaving her stressed as she tries to organise the perfect Christmas for the family.
“Every Christmas he gets angry at me for getting stressed because I do everything,” she claims.
“If I show any of my stress in any way he gets shouty saying we shouldn’t have Christmas.”
“Starting to feel resentful”
In an effort to keep the peace, she’s pared back expectations.
“We don’t go anywhere or do loads of things. I try to keep the budget down so we don’t spend a lot,” she explained.
Still, her holiday job list includes sending small presents to loved ones, making a Christmas cake, and organizing stockings for their now-adult children.
But the mental load has taken a toll, completely changing how she feels about the season.
“I’m starting to feel resentful and pretty much hate it myself now. I don’t do anything nice and Christmassy because it adds to the stress,” she admitted.
Other parents on the forum chimed in with their own experiences:
“My husband has written some cards,” said one.
“My husband is pretty useless,” another agreed.
A third added: “Mine is in charge of food. I do the presents.”
Some commenters offered advice or the woman’s mental health.
“Take a step back,” one suggested.
Another encouraged her to “just quiet quit.”
Overall, the theme was clear—many husbands simply show up, unaware of what they’re gifting their kids for Christmas.
It’s a dynamic that leaves some women questioning how to bring back the joy of the holidays while sharing the load.
This mom, for example, went viral for talking about it, and we can all learn something from her.
Read more about her ‘PSA for husbands everywhere’ here.
