Sending invitations to friends for meet-ups can often be challenging.
The busy Christmas period rarely helps matters.
Will they RSVP? Will they cancel at the last minute?
One mom has shared her own personal gripe – people who say “I’ll decide nearer the time.”
“Bloody rude”
“This happened twice this week. I have invited people over for lunch after Christmas. They have told me that they would like to play it by ear,” she vented.
“It is so rude.”
Taking to a mom’s forum, she writes how inconvenient it is, especially when time off from work over Christmas is so limited.
“I am now stuck until you make a decision and I can’t make other plans with my (limited) annual leave,” she said.
“If I’m not good enough for you to cash in a holiday day on, then fine – just decline the invitation- but it’s bloody rude to put me in a position where I’m now stuck holding the day for you.”
She doesn’t think she should be left to wait.
“It’s just so ill-mannered!
” I absolutely see that people might be in a position whereby they are waiting to hear back from visiting family,” she added later.
But there’s a simple solution: “Either say so and chase up the missing bit of info or if that isn’t possible, then just decline the invitation.”
“Hoping for a better offer”
The frustrated mom’s comment section was divided.
Some said it was a habit they often found themselves doing.
“I quite often say can we play it by ear, because I have two young children who get ill,” admitted a mother.
Some suggested it’s not worth stressing about.
“Piss takers can only piss take if you let them,” said someone quite bluntly.
“ If waiting to know is inconvenient for you, by all means tell them politely,” suggested another.
Others agreed it was rude.
“No way I would be holding a day for people who might let you down at the last minute,” said one person.
Another wrote: “It simply means they’re hoping for a better offer.”
The disgruntled host argued there’s a hidden message you’re sending.
“The implication that their time is less important than yours,” she said.
