New data have revealed a controversial sex act is declining in popularity, spawning the rise of a bedroom activity that was once deemed “boring.”
The number of Australians drinking alcohol has been slowly decreasing in recent years, aside from a small spike during the 2020-21 lockdown, according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare (AIHW).
But the changing attitudes towards booze is not only affecting drinking habits, it’s having a knock-off effect on bedroom antics, new research has found.
Statistics shared by adult store Lovehoney have revealed that while 69 percent of Aussies have had sex under the influence, 51 percent prefer to have it when sober.
Sydney sex therapist Christine Rafe said the data show “more Australians are recognizing the impact alcohol has on their sexual experiences and relationships” and that “as a result, they’re choosing to engage in sober sex more often.”
“This shift shows that people are becoming more intentional about their sexual connections,” Rafe told news.com.au.
“They want to feel present and engaged, which can lead to more meaningful and satisfying experiences with their partners.
“Without alcohol dulling their senses or clouding their judgment, they’re also more in tune with their desires and able to communicate those clearly.”
For those in relationships, ditching booze can have a profound effect on the partnership, Rafe said.
“Without the haze of alcohol, you’re better able to engage with your partner, respond to their cues, and understand your own body,” Lovehoney’s sex and relationship expert explained.
“This heightened awareness naturally boosts self-confidence, as you feel more in control and assured.
“Sober sex also fosters intimacy — when you’re not under the influence, you’re more emotionally available, which helps you connect with your partner on a deeper level. The clarity and mutual presence that sober sex offers allow for better communication, more trust, and ultimately, a stronger bond between partners.”
The rise of sober sex has also seen fewer people engaging in one-night stands, the research found.
Australia historically has one of the highest rates of casual sex in the world, with 2023 data showing 64 percent of men and 52 percent of women admit to having engaged in a one-night stand.
But the research from Lovehoney revealed 24 percent of Aussies who have participated in the casual sex act did so while drinking.
Of those surveyed, 16 percent said they have had a negative experience during drunk sex, while 7 percent claimed they prefer sex while intoxicated.
“I think it’s important to acknowledge that everyone’s experiences with alcohol and sex are different, and there’s no ‘one size fits all’ approach,” Rafe added.
“For some, alcohol can serve as a tool for relaxation, but it’s worth exploring how sober sex could enhance your relationship and personal experience on a more sustained and long-term basis.
“Many people find that once they try it, they actually prefer sober sex because of the clarity, control, and intimacy it offers. It’s all about discovering what works best for you and your partner and being open to trying new approaches to your sexual wellness.”
