A woman’s dating theory has divided social media, with an expert weighing in on the hot topic.
Chelsea Berman shared her “theory” that if someone was excessively on social media with “paragraphs” about their partner being their soulmate — it was a sign the relationship was in trouble.
“You’re actually miserable in that relationship,” the singer said.
“A few reasons — one, because I’ve been there. Two, who are you trying to prove it to? You can just tell them that.”
She said there was no problem with posting your partner on social media. Her point was people who excessively post about their partners.
People obviously had divided opinions on this.
“A private life is a happy life,” one social media user commented.
Another said: “I post my partner all the time cause for the first time in my life I feel valued and happy in a relationship. So NO this is not true.”
“I think the most miserable people are actually the ones who judge others for what they choose to post. Live your life,” one said.
Another commented: “Posting excessively and not posting at all are the same thing.”
“100 percent. I’ve been with my partner seven years and barely post literally nothing to prove to anyone. It’s always the toxic ones doing the most,” another added.
One added: “This is false I post my man daily because I’m obsessed LOL not because I’m miserable.”
Research is split on the topic. Bumble’s 2023 Love Unfiltered Report found that 27 percent of people want their partner to post about them on social media.
Meanwhile, a survey of 2000 people found that 26 percent of people who posted their partner three times a week were unhappy. In addition, 42 percent were very unhappy. Meanwhile, 46 percent of people who never shared a couple of content were very happy.
Samantha Jayne, a relationship expert, told news.com.au overposting was not only “cringe-worthy” but it was a “sign of trouble”.
“Overposting screams insecurity in the relationship, where you are trying to prove to people out there just how happy you are and how strong you are going, embellishing the positive experiences,” she said.
“Over-posting affectionate pictures and captions might be a sign that a couple is grappling with issues like lack of trust or communication. Sometimes, constantly posting your relationship, or always wanting to be posted becomes a smokescreen that masks the real struggles within the relationship.
“Sometimes it’s a front, sometimes it’s also a sign that there is control in a relationship. When you are with a controlling partner, declaring your love for them can alleviate their peppering. The overposting may also be a weapon against an ex that just won’t let go, rubbing your relationship in their face.”
But the expert said that under-posting wasn’t a great sign either. She said if you’re in a happy relationship, and posting friends and family you should also post your partner.
“Posting about your relationship is a sign of commitment; it’s like a digital wedding ring showing that you are investing in the relationship,” she said.
“Next time you want to broadcast your relationship ask yourself am I doing this because I genuinely want to celebrate something real or am I trying to cover up a real issue.”
