An accountant-turned-sex worker has doubled down on her comments that married men having sex with her isn’t “cheating.”
Katija Cortez, from Sydney, Australia, went viral earlier this year when she claimed that married men sleeping with her aren’t cheating — and it’s something she still very much believes.
“Men in particular are better at separating sex and love. It’s not the same as a connection,” she told news.com.au.
She said married men paying for her services are completely different from actively seeking an affair.
Cortez said there are no dinners, sleepovers or text messages. It’s just sex.
“They’re paying us to leave,” she said.
“Affairs are emotional. Even if they aren’t emotional on the guy’s side, it probably is emotional on the woman’s side.”
She said she wasn’t there to steal anyone’s husband, she was just there to do a job and go home.
Cortez said she’s also had couples book her — with the women often leading the way.
She’s also heard of women booking sex workers for their husbands but not being part of the appointment.
She hasn’t had this experience herself, though.
However, people had a huge reaction to Cortez’s claims about booking sex workers not being counted as cheating.
“In this case it is a business transaction nothing else, if the person who buys her services are married that is for them to deal with they are the one betraying their partner,” one person said.
Another added: “You do not cheat, but those married men do.”
“It may not be an emotional affair but it’s still cheating,” another social media user added.
One commented: “It’s your job, the men are in the wrong.”
“Think it’s not cheating? Ask the customer’s wife. Take one look at the devastation on her face and you will soon know,” one social media user said.
Another said: “It’s not cheating, for men it’s just a different meal which we need time and again. No emotions.”
Cortez said men simply don’t see sex as cheating — that’s what all her clients say.
“Of course in front of people, they’re going to say it’s cheating. But behind closed doors they think something completely different,” she said.
“It’s the women that think it’s cheating. Sex is very emotional for a lot of women.”
She said men and women need to separate sex from emotion.
“Going and buying a product or a service isn’t anti-feminist. It’s still a service at the end of the day. Some people just have a hard time differentiating that’s what it is,” she said.
She said just because there are some people who don’t like it, it doesn’t mean it applies as a blanket rule.
She likened it to politics. Believing one party is better than the other is opinion, not fact.
“If that was everyone’s thought, I wouldn’t have a job. But that’s clearly not what people think. Sex workers are making more money than ever,” she said.
Cortez pointed out that if someone — whether a man or a woman — is looking for sex elsewhere, people need to look inward.
Are men doing enough to make their partners want sex? Do their sex drives match? Are women cutting off sex? These were all concepts Cortez pointed to.
