Fifty, flirty and thiriving.
Jennifer Keough is sharing her saucy secrets — she’s 50, single and having the best sex of her life.
“My experience has been that older men appreciate a woman who is confident and comfortable in herself and body, and he wants to witness her enjoying their time together,” the author of “How To Heal From Toxic Relationships,” told Mamamia.
“These men take care of their health, have incredible stamina and know exactly what they’re doing. They also have certain manners, such as the woman always comes first.”
The 50-year-old explained that while she’s satisfied being single, she’s allowed several “lover friends” into her bed to maintain a healthy sex life with men whom she feels comfortable with.
“I trust these men, we have such an honest connection, and we care about each other,” she said. “Sex is an extension of that. I feel very safe and taken care of in their presence.”
Although a good connection with your partner is necessary, Keough ultimately believes the most important relationship to maintain in order to have good sex is with yourself.
“Great sex starts with the relationship you have with yourself,” she explained. “There’s no coincidence that now I love myself, the sex I’m having is mind-blowing.”
And Keough isn’t the only one.
In fact, about 70% of women 50 and older report enjoying sex, according to data from a survey conducted by Harris Poll for Kindra, which sells estrogen-free menopause supplements and relief.
Now that Keough loves herself and is comfortable with her “lover friends,” she’s confident she could fall in love with one of them but doesn’t let herself as she knows the “situations aren’t ideal” — each for its own reason — and she’s okay with that.
“Falling in love with someone is a choice, and you need more than ‘chemistry’ and friendship to have a long-term romantic relationship,” Keough said.
Instead of getting swept up in her connection and “mindblowing” sex with the men in her life, Keough thinks more practically to allow herself to enjoy her relationships — and active sex life — without getting into the wrong relationship or losing herself.
“There also needs to be compatibility in life and where you want to go. If that doesn’t match up, you’re making life hard for each other, then what chance does the relationship have?” Keough said.
“Most of all, you have to be happy with who you are with that person. If they bring out the best in you, and you like who you are in their presence, that’s the best sign you have that they’re a good person to have in your life.
